To the Mom-at-Heart struggling after a miscarriage this Mother’s Day…
I see you.
I see you as you’re shopping for groceries, only to be met at various turns with reminders to buy greeting cards, balloons, and flowers.
I see you as you scroll Facebook and feel inundated with all the cute Mother’s Day crafts your friends’ children have made their moms.
I see you as you flip the channel when another commercial comes on for mom-inspired jewelry.
I see you.
I see you talk and interact with other’s children, wishing that the moments weren’t temporary and that you had a child of your own.
I see the tears you hold back. The rage you fight against. I see that deep breath you take as you check your jealousy. Again.
I know you wonder if you’ll ever have the chance to be showered with flowers, homemade crafts, or jewelry (shiny or macaroni) one day.
I want you to know its okay to feel a wide range of emotions on this day. It’s okay to feel sadness, anger, and, yes, even jealousy.
I want you to know that it is okay to declare this your day too. It doesn’t matter if you knew about your baby for one day or one month. You cared for it. You are a mom, even if society struggles to talk about it and acknowledge it.
Take your day, Mom. If you feel like sitting on the couch all day, do it. If you need to take a break from social media, do it. If you want to buy yourself flowers and acknowledge that period of time, however short, you cared for the life inside of you then do it. Acknowledge those feelings and make a safe place for yourself if you feel you need it today.
Mother’s Day is your day too.
I’ve been there. I see you. And I am sending you a huge virtual hug.