I debated whether or not I wanted to throw G a party this year. I started this debate with myself back in October. I didn’t go all out for his first, but we did invite a lot of people, I spent some time making homemade food for the lunch we all ate, and I did clean the house. It worked out, but I also had time.
I wanted to be realistic for G’s second birthday. I was going to have a one month old — possibly a two week old (or so I thought). I wasn’t going to have time to clean or make food. I didn’t want a bunch of people coming over at one time when I would have a newborn who hadn’t had his first round of whooping cough vaccine yet (I’ve tried to avoid crowds where my babies will be in close contact with people until they’ve had their eight week vaccines).
I thought about not hosting a party, but then L decided to make his appearance at the end of January instead of towards the end of February. If I pushed G’s party to April it would mean we could get the eight week shots out of the way before a bunch of people walked through the door wanting to get their hands on the new baby.
As much as I wanted to invite the same people we invited for G’s first birthday, I decided to keep this one more low key. Hubby was hesitant about having a large number of people show up with their kids when we didn’t know whether or not it would be nice enough outdoors to hang out. I wouldn’t have cared, but I decided since we had a new baby to think of it would be best to keep the guest list to immediate family and college friends we keep in regular touch with.
The smaller guest list meant I was actually able to sit down with my friends and catch up, something I didn’t get to do during G’s first birthday party.
The day before the party we hung some balloons, the “Happy Birthday” banner, and bought a veggie and apple tray. I also made some cupcakes to frost the morning while Hubby pre-ordered pizza for lunch.
The only cleaning I did was vaccuming and quickly mopped up the floor. Oh, and I moved some piles of papers from the kitchen to the stairs. I didn’t get super nitpicky like I usually do before we have a bunch of people over. I totally forgot to clean the downstairs bathroom. I also, much to my embarrassment, totally forgot to plunge that toilet before our guests arrived (it doesn’t flush right and needs to be plunged on a regular basis).
The above preparations almost didn’t happen as we had to take both boys to the pediatrician for their 2 month and 2 year check up in the morning and L had a urologist appointment that afternoon.
We also decided to ask for NICU donations in lieu of gifts for G again this year. It didn’t seem to deter people from getting G gifts like it did last year. Our families donated big time and I was able to drop off two bags worth of clothes, blankets, and pump supplies. Like last year, it felt awesome seeing how much the nurses appreciated what I dropped off. It was still an emotional experience, but unlike last year I wasn’t a crying mess. I think a lot of that had to do with being two years removed from my NICU experience and also having a better birth experience with L.
Me and G with the items we donated to the NICU
I definitely enjoyed this birthday party more than G’s first since I had time to chat with friends and sit down. Since the grandmothers were in attendance, I didn’t have to carry L around, and he can go longer between feedings than G ever could at two months. I think I’ve started a trend for our future birthday parties. Though, I will do my best to make sure the bathroom is clean next time.